The Five Rs - A Negative Thought Stopping Procedure

Dr Jacques Dallaire

Copyright (c) 2006 Dallaire Consulting LLC

Rule #2 of the Seven Rules of the Mental Road states: "You
cant NOT think about whats on your mind". In fact, the harder
you try to not think about something that is negative, the
more powerful and entrenched in your mind that negative
thought becomes, and the greater the negative influence it has
on your performance. The only way to stop negative thoughts is
to shift your thinking to thoughts - and images - that are both
positive and productive with regard to your personal performance.
Since the human mind can only process one thought at a time
(Rule #1), you must actively choose to direct your mind toward
(i.e. focus on) a Dominant Thought that is positive, productive,
and directly related to how you want to perform. By doing so, you
will deny the mind the processor "capacity" required to dwell on
the negative.

The FIVE Rs are key words that summarize a Negative Thought
Stopping procedure that can help you achieve this goal. Each
word sets up the thought process for the next step in this
sequential procedure. Implementing this thought process on a
consistent basis, with intensity, is critical to successfully
learning to stop negative or counter-productive thoughts.

RECOGNIZE - Recognizing that you are having a negative thought
is a critical first step in learning to control negative thoughts.
Consciously increasing your awareness and vigilance with regard to
negative thinking will aid in the recognition and control of
counter-productive and self-destructive thinking. You must be "on
guard" to recognize the first signs of negative thinking in order
to crush that thought before it has a chance to fully form and
strongly take hold of your conscious mind.

REFUSE - You must refuse to allow the negative thought to
continue and gain strength by some positive and defined action
(e.g. visualize a STOP sign in your minds eye; snap a rubber
band across your wrist every time you have a negative thought;
etc.). You must do something to disrupt the negative image and/or
thought in order to prevent it from growing stronger. By doing
this, you begin the process of shifting your mind away from the
negative thought.

RELAX - Use any of a number of techniques that can help you
to relax: take a deep, controlled breath; use a verbal trigger
to shift your thoughts and feelings to a relaxing image; etc.
When you are relaxed, the effect of mental programming is more
powerful and you are ensuring that the next step in this 5-step
procedure will have an increased potential to be effective.

REFRAME - The 4th step in the Negative Thought Stopping
procedure serves to complete a mental shift toward images and
thoughts that are consistent with your best performance.
Replace the negative thought with a positive image or thought.
"I AM in control of my thoughts and actions, I can choose to
respond and think the way I want to." "Ive been here before
and done this before, so I know I can do it again." "This is
part of the process that I have chosen." Use imagery to see and
feel the performance you want to achieve and how you want to BE
as you achieve it. Become youre personal A.C.T.© model.

RESUME - Continue your activities with a sense of confidence
and control. You will always enjoy strong sense of confidence
if you tie this mindset to a personal commitment to always
give nothing but your best effort, regardless of the situation
or outcome. The degree of effort you apply to the challenges
that you face on an ongoing basis is totally, 100% within your
control... it is one of the few things that is, in fact, fully
within your control. Think about what you are like when you
perform with excellence and what you want to achieve, and
develop your confidence by always applying your best effort to
achieve it. A.C.T.© like a Champion in word, thought, and deed.

The next time you feel negative thoughts grabbing hold, use
these Five Rs to effectively change your thought patterns and
bring about powerful results in your life. Make this simple
program your new habit!

Jacques Dallaire, Ph.D is the principal consultant of
Dallaire Performance Consulting. Dr. Dallaire has extensive
experience gained over the past 32 years working with more
than 1000 high-performance athletes and business professionals.
To access Dr. Dallaires entire vault of Performance Files, or to
learn about Dallaire Consultings business performance programs,
individual/sport programs and products, visit:
http://www.dallaireconsulting.com

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"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed
in overalls and looks like work."
-- Thomas A. Edison

What do these people have in common? Walt Disney, Winston
Churchill, Thomas Edison, Abraham Lincoln, Joanne Rowling
(Author of the Harry Potter books), just to name a few.

Well, I'll give you a hint. You might say they all attended
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Every one of them is famous today, and is considered to be
the model of a successful person. However, at times in
their lives, and not just during the early years, they had
pretty either failed, or had not achieved anything of note
in their lives.

They all attended, in one form or another, the school of
hard knocks. But, they learned in that school, and they
eventually accumulated enough knowledge, enough common sense,
enough experience, enough guts, maybe, to rise to a point
where their names have been recorded as a part of history.

Oh sure, circumstance played a part. Had not World War II
happened along, Winston Churchill would have remained a
has-been rather than becoming one of the world's most famous
statesmen. Had Abraham Lincoln caught a fatal disease in his
youth, we would never have known his name, and how much of
our world would be different?

We have to look at our lives and our circumstances in this
light. I AM here now, and I CAN make various choices. One of
the choices is to do nothing. One of the choices, however is
to take a stand, give it the old college try, go out
swinging...pick your literary cliche.

In the world of network marketing and internet marketing,
those with experience and "success" can almost to a person
tell story after story of failure, embarrassment, defeat,
rejection, and depression. I've never met a person yet who
joined a program and was making appreciable amounts of
money in just a few days. I've HEARD about such things, and
I am sure that there are a few who have either had the skill
or luck to create a huge network business practically
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What DOES happen to most of those who sign up for a network
marketing program is that while we AREN'T experiencing